Is sexual attraction a reliable indicator of compatibility? Certainly, there has to be a starting point at which we even become aware of someone, but beyond that, how much should we trust physical attraction? According to research by anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, there are physical markers that our senses become aware of that initially attract us to others who are a good genetic match. Fabulous! But for those of us who are not in mating mode, we no longer need to be with someone just to create genetically hardy offspring. Are we relying on out dated hardware encoded in our DNA to help us make these very important decisions?
Have you ever had the experience of not being sexually attracted to someone initially, and then over time developing a great relationship?--I have. Or conversely, dated someone with whom the magnetism was palpable, yet the relationship was a flop outside of the bedroom? Obviously, if you're only looking for a few nights of fireworks then you'd better start with a blazing torch!
Have you ever had the experience of not being sexually attracted to someone initially, and then over time developing a great relationship?--I have. Or conversely, dated someone with whom the magnetism was palpable, yet the relationship was a flop outside of the bedroom? Obviously, if you're only looking for a few nights of fireworks then you'd better start with a blazing torch!
But, if you want a fire that burns long and hot it might take some time and effort to get the embers glowing, metaphorically speaking.
I'd love to hear some feedback on this topic. How much need we rely upon initial attraction? Would you date some one just based on personality, and can that eventually lead to a balanced relationship with great sex? Comments and anecdotes welcome!
